Kalani Sitake’s Father Tom: The Steady Presence Behind BYU’s Head Coach
Behind the success of BYU head football coach Kalani Sitake stands his father, Tomasi “Tom” Sitake—a man whose unwavering support and daily presence have profoundly shaped his son’s life and career. Their bond, forged through shared challenges and triumphs, exemplifies the deep-rooted values of family, faith, and resilience.
After Kalani’s parents divorced during his childhood, Tom became the primary caregiver, guiding his children through significant transitions, including moves from Tonga to Hawaii, then to Missouri, and finally to Utah. Despite financial hardships, Tom’s dedication never wavered. He often parked near BYU’s stadium to listen to game broadcasts, instilling in his children a passion for football and perseverance.
Kalani’s journey from a BYU fullback to the first Tongan head coach in FBS history is a testament to his father’s influence. Tom’s consistent presence—attending practices, games, and community events—has been a cornerstone of Kalani’s life. Their daily conversations, a routine maintained even during Kalani’s missionary service, reflect a relationship built on mutual respect and love.
In 2018, the father-son duo spoke at a KAVA Talks event, addressing domestic violence in the Polynesian community. Kalani emphasized his father’s role in shaping his values and character, highlighting the importance of confronting challenges with courage and compassion.
Tom Sitake’s enduring support and guidance have not only influenced Kalani’s personal and professional life but have also left an indelible mark on the BYU football program. Their story serves as a powerful reminder of the impact of steadfast parental support in achieving greatness.
